Fundamentally, people don't like to make a change unless they are running toward pleasure or seeking to escape pain.
Human nature tends to remain in the status quo because most people really don't like change. Obviously, there are some people who thrive on change, but those are not in the majority. There are two primary catalysts that motivate someone to make a major change in their life.
They run toward pleasure (something perceived as better), or
They want to escape pain (flee from something perceived as very unpleasant)
Ask yourself these questions:
What's it like for other people to be around me? Would they say "painful, neutral, or pleasurable?"
What's it like to go to my job every day? (painful, neutral, pleasurable)
What's it like to work for my supervisor?
What's it like to work for me or with me?
What's it like for my spouse or partner to be around me?
What's it like for my children to be around me?
What's it like to get up out of bed and face my day?
If your answers to many of these questions is "painful," maybe it's time to start thinking about how to make changes to either yourself or your circumstances. Making positive change is usually not easy. Keep in mind that not all change is for the better. Sometimes people who seek to escape pain go to something even worse. The cliche for this is "jumping from the frying pan into the fire."
When you seek to make a change motivated by running toward pleasure, be sure to do your homework and research carefully. The old saying "the grass isn't always greener" just might be true. Sometimes the grass only looks greener because it has more fertilizer (BS) on it.
In my long HR career, I have interviewed many hundreds of candidates. One thing I would always try to determine is why they were seeking to make a job change. If they were running from their current job, I would ask many more questions about their motivations. If they were running to the position in my company because they liked what it was and had to offer, I would view that motivation as something positive.
In life, it's a good idea to know clearly what you are running from or running to. Take time to think through your reasons for making any major change(s) in your life. Beware of making emotional snap decisions and be sure to apply good sound logic.
Thank you for taking your time to read my post. I hope it offers some thoughts that will be of value to you. If yes, please let me know in a comment; if not or you disagree, let me know that as well. My posts fall into four major categories: 1) Spiritual Law, 2) Christian Principles, 3) Servant Leadership, and 4) Life Lessons. My goal is always to "help people learn how to live a truly blessed life."
never thought of it like this!!